Imagine if you will, a husband and wife having an argument. Like many couples have in the past, their argument centers on the possibility of infidelity, and the fathering of another child out of wedlock. Now imagine if husband in this scenario was in fact the accused cheater, and was being questioned by his wife about text messages to his ex-wife which includes a discussion of leaving his wife. Now put yourself in the shoes of the wife in this scenario, surely you’d be pretty upset, right?

Now let’s say after the wife accuses said husband about his possible infidelity, mister accused cheating husband gets pissed because of the accusation and leaves the room only to return with a gun, stand and put a bullet in the chamber, and fires at his wife while two of her children are standing with her. Given that scenario, would you say that said husband deserves to be in prison for aggravated assault with a deadly weapon? Yeah I know, this all sounds like a scene from a movie or an episode of “(I Almost) Got Away With It,” on your cable. However, this is exactly what occurred in real life on August 10th, 2010 and the shooter was not the husband, but instead, Marissa Alexander who is currently serving a 20 year sentence for firing what she continues to claim as a warning shot at her husband Rico Gray after he accused her of cheating with her ex-husband, Lincoln Alexander.

We’ve all heard Marissa’s account, but here’s what Gray had to say in speaking to In an article by Charles Broward, Gray contends that contrary to belief it was Marissa’s violent nature that lead to the shooting, and not the image of him cast as an abusive wife beater. Speaking at the State Attorney’s office in Jacksonville, Gray explained his account of how the event which landed his wife in prison unfolded. Since there are always three sides to a story, let’s hear his:

He said it was Alexander, 31, who first began punching him after he confronted her about some text messages she had sent to her ex-husband.

Gray said he put his hands up in defense “buying time” for his two sons to gather their belongings so he could take them and leave. But when he made the remark that their newborn baby must be fathered by her ex-husband, he said she immediately stopped.

“She said, ‘I got something for your — —,’ and walked away,” Gray said. “I knew exactly what she was going to do.”

Gray said she went to the garage, to her truck, to get her gun and then returned back inside the home. He said the garage door that she claimed was inoperable worked for him earlier that morning and later that day with no trouble.

“When she came back inside, the first thing I saw was her putting one [a bullet] in the chamber,” he said.

Gray said by the time his kids had come to his side to leave, she had the gun pointed at him.

“As soon as I took my eyes off Marissa, that’s when I heard the gunshot,” Gray said.

He said he never looked back, grabbing the children and running out of the house and down the street.

[…] Gray said he lied during an initial deposition when he said he had been the aggressor because the couple had settled their differences and gotten back together. He said he didn’t want to see his wife go to prison.

It was after Alexander assaulted him again less than five months later that he decided to no longer support her. She pleaded no contest to domestic battery in that incident and was sentenced to time served. (source)

Now given Gray’s account, can you honestly say that there’d be all this uproar and calls for action like the national day of protest on behalf of Marissa on June 24th, if she was a man? No seriously, I’d really like to hear your thoughts on this. Of course I understand it’s hard to imagine a woman being abusive towards her husband or even aggressive in that regard. Yes, and given that Marissa’s story as told by herself and her supporters has made Gray out to be Ike Turner on steroids and bath salts, It’s hard for most to see her as the aggressor in this instance; heck, women never lie.

Listen to Rico Gray Sr.’s 911 recording:

  • My husband and I just had a conversation about this. The simple answer is no. The stand your ground law is inherently flawed. If you can kill and get off then you can shoot close and miss and get off. the law is a license to kill depending upon your race and sex. i think marissa should have killed him and then maybe only her version of the story would stand and she’d be free instead of living a hellish unjustified nightmare for the next 20 years.

  • Having read the facts of the case, it’s hard for me to see this as an injkustice. First off, leaving your house and returning with a gun only to pull the trigger after uttering the words, “I got something for your ass,” doesn’t sound too much like acting out of fear.

    As for the race angle? Check out what I wrote last week:

  • the facts of the case do point to her guilt. but in answering the question posed in the title if Marissa were a man and or had she killed her second husband i highly doubt she’d be facing 20 years to life. the injustice is not only the racial angle of the law well documented in the Tampa Baby times but its unfair and uneven application.

    Marissa may have acted out of fear and anger. A battered woman trying to leave then picked a fight because she had a gun. It’s not a good look.

    And neither is the reason why her case matters in the first place.

    George Zimmerman followed Trayvon Martin against police dispatch orders and described to 911 operators a possibly Black male, looking suspicious, looking at all the houses, possibly on drugs or something, and these people always get away. they always do.

    He picked a fight shot and killed a man and unfortunately i believe if he doesn’t walk at trial (this is Florida) he will be pleaded down to a lesser sentence and pick up his life after at least five years.

    Marissa’s case is muddied, she’s neither completely credible nor sympathetic, and neither is Zimmerman with the release of today’s audio tapes shows and proves he has no remorse for what he did and is only concerned about living his life sans conviction for murder.

  • I’ve been busy as hell today. What did the new audio reveal?

  • in the six tapes released by angela corey’s office you hear george and shellie discussing the 135 thousand dollars from his website as just 135 dollars trying to speak in code so people wouldn’t understand just how much money they had ahead of george’s april 20th bond hearing. they also discuss having her move money from the pay pal account to her credit union account (technically money laundering though a bit of a stretch) and how much support they’ve received and the attorney needs to get people to speak out on their behalf.

    they also discussed how zimmerman would leave jail once he received bail requesting tinted SUVs bullet proof vests and oh his hoodie.

  • Reggie

    Yeah but………maybe she should do some time?!? Maybe she meant to bust a cap in his ass?!? Maybe she could have gotten up and walked out and went about her business without both taking a beatdown or shooting her husband?!?

  • blksista

    So you believe Rico Gray, a guy who has admittedly beat up several other women—except this one? What makes him a pussycat or a lamb to the slaughter in this case, but not in the others?

    Contrary to popular belief, I do believe that women can be abusive towards children and boyfriends/husbands. Somehow, Gray does not pass the smell test, imho.

  • Rico Gray may be a piece of shit, but it does not diminish the fact that he was the victim in this case. The facts of the case as presented at trial, are very different than the story told by Marissa and her supporters. In my last post on her I pointed out just what those lies and exaggerations were.

  • Did she take a beatdown that night in questions? Did she fire a warning shot while being on the receiving end of allged beatdown? The answer is no.

  • There’s Florida statute 776.013 (a k a Stand Your Ground), and there’s another chapter, 776.041, called “use of force by aggressor.”
    That law says the use of force is justified if another is committing a crime or escaping the scene.
    A person who “initially provokes the use of force” isn’t justified in responding in a deadly fashion unless he meets two criteria: If he has reason to believe he’s about to be killed or seriously wounded and if he has “exhausted every reasonable means to escape such danger other than the use of force which is likely to cause death or great bodily harm to the assailant.”
    Now, you can call this a miscarriage of justice based on race all day long if you like. But the fact remains: given the Florida statute as written, Marissa Alexander’s motion for immunity under stand your ground was denied based on the fact that it did not meet the criteria to qualify as such.

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