The recent resurfacing of self-proclaimed experts examining Black women’s bodies and dating habits is becoming the latest retro-comeback, similar to hi-top fades and snap-backs (yes, both very much back in style). In fact, the newest way to police Black women’s sexual habits and practices is to provide advice on dating and courtship in general. It [...]

It looks like my right-wing friends in South Carolina are up to their usual foolishness again. This time, apparently an unborn fetus has more rights than a woman (or child) reliant on the state health insurance system — you know, mostly low-income women who happen to be a victims of rape, or incest? And, to [...]

Years ago when Essence came under fire for hiring a white woman as the creative fashion director for the iconic Black women’s magazine, I came to the defense of that decision. I still believe that it was the right thing to do. If I wanted to work at Glamour magazine, a publication that primarily focuses [...]

Recently, in a conversation about Mitt Romney with a friend, I joked that there was no way that a Black Republican of Mormon faith existed. In my mind the odds of this person existing was somewhere up there right along with the reality of pink unicorns, Santa Claus, and Mark Sanchez winning a Superbowl with [...]

Strange things have happened since my daughter was born, perhaps even including the miraculous manner in which she arrived. The first of which seems to be related to the genuine surprise that comes from being a young(ish) black man who is actively involved in his kid’s life. Everyone who knows me knows that my Ava [...]

Writing within the context of my own community; oftentimes a Black woman’s dating patterns–especially if that pattern is askew, like a Möbius strip– and disposition is attributed to her relationship with her father.  We hear society wax poetic about a woman’s supposed Daddy Issues (clinical term: Electra complex); particularly if she’s prone to behavior that’s [...]