At this very moment in time as I type this, I feel like I’m in the twilight zone. I recently wrote about fellow Tennesseans who just so happen to be members of the Tea party and their presentation of a list of demands to our state lawmakers. Among the requests was the demand to remove [...]

Pariah (puh-rayh-uh) noun: 1) a person without status 2) a rejected member of society 3) an outcast I will never forget the first time my mother called me a faggot. It was Thanksgiving 2004. We had just gotten home from visiting my grandfather in the hospital. My mother and I had gotten into a fight, [...]

One of my biggest qualms as a professional and lifelong advocate is the clear division that we see after college in the social science and activist realm. What I mean, mostly, is that men are told to enter into “real” careers and forget those true lessons that they attained in college through their advocacy, while [...]

The state of Tennessee is a red state; and, it didn’t take the six years of me living here to figure this out. However, with Republicans having control of both the House and Senate for the first time since reconstruction. Let’s just say that the suggesting that the state is more red than the rear [...]

Mom. Dad. I have something I need to tell you. For a while I’ve struggled with how I would break the news to you. After all, there are plenty of social taboos and myths surrounding what I’m about to say. But, after much deliberation, I don’t think there is reason for me to be anything [...]

I had the pleasure of making the acquaintance of my downstairs neighbor yesterday after having survived a busted pipe (mine) and a collapsed ceiling (his). While the circumstances weren’t the greatest and maybe we could have done this earlier, say, late Summer or early Fall, better late then never, right? Several frustrating incidences led up to yesterday, I haven’t [...]

I know I am not the only gay man who finds the thought of using a new, unfamiliar hair-stylist frightening. After all, the way someone “whips your buttah” can make or break your look. But this is not a style editorial. Though, that fear was certainly the sentiment I experienced when I was forced to [...]

This topic has so many taboos that even I, Queen of the Non-Taboo, clutches her pearls while poaching this subject. After all, women and men have been conditioned by religion and our male dominated society to all but ignore the subject. The resulting ignorance and old world Victorian morals causes us all to disregard something [...]

Wiki says: Emetophilia is a paraphilia in which an individual is aroused by vomiting or observing others vomit. When emetophiles put emetophilia into practice by actually vomiting, especially on a partner, it is called a Roman shower, after the commonly-supposed (but mistaken) belief in the frequent induction of vomiting at Roman feasts. Some emetophiles find the act of vomiting arousing; for them, [...]

Revolution without fuckin’ is a revolution without a soul… – Me I was attending a #OccupyWallStreet general assembly last night when I noticed a young lady with a derrière that could only be described as “magnificent.” No, I’m not there to “pick up” women and no I wasn’t objectifying her. In fact, I was so [...]

While it seems absurd to those of us who know the root and results of domestic violence, there are not many variables in abusive behavior but there are, however, millions of barriers to escaping abuse.  In my work with victims of domestic and intimate partner violence, I’ve found that oftentimes, the survivor-stories are dissimilar: he [...]