I know I am not the only gay man who finds the thought of using a new, unfamiliar hair-stylist frightening. After all, the way someone “whips your buttah” can make or break your look. But this is not a style editorial. Though, that fear was certainly the sentiment I experienced when I was forced to [...]

Revolution without fuckin’ is a revolution without a soul… – Me I was attending a #OccupyWallStreet general assembly last night when I noticed a young lady with a derrière that could only be described as “magnificent.” No, I’m not there to “pick up” women and no I wasn’t objectifying her. In fact, I was so [...]

While it seems absurd to those of us who know the root and results of domestic violence, there are not many variables in abusive behavior but there are, however, millions of barriers to escaping abuse.  In my work with victims of domestic and intimate partner violence, I’ve found that oftentimes, the survivor-stories are dissimilar: he [...]

I recently caught wind of a study published in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology about the intersection of obvious social categories and not-so-obvious social categories. The findings of the study were that gay Black men, based on appearance and perception, are more likable than straight Black men; and also, that gay white men, based [...]

  Year 3017 Can I tell you about the night I lost my mind????? I’d say it was a stormy night and all that jazz but it was actually a balmy summer evening that we met.  She was unlike any woman I have ever known.  She was an impossibility, compiled of all my lusts.  Her [...]

The question of the hour that everyone seems to be asking, from some Prop 8 white supremacists to Queen Latifah on VH1’s “Single Ladies.” Is gay the new black? One can’t help but wonder what motivates a person, or entire groups, to suggest that gay is supposedly the new black. Perhaps it is because, like [...]

This story is kinda old, but with the hoopla over gay marriage in New York coupled with the fact that I’m a bit under the weather with my eyes again. I figured throw this out there because I could imagine just how many Black church organizations out there are actively working against legislation in New [...]