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Wait, is Barack Obama Gay? Uhm, is He Still Black?!!

May 16, 2012 No Comments by Rippa

Last week after Pres. Obama’s made his “evolution” on gay marriage public, my initial thought was: great, now they’re going to say that Obama is gay, and all gay people are now going to vote for him because of it. You know, pretty much in the same way all black people voted for him in [...]

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When Thugs Cry: DMX Breaksdown on VH1′s ‘Couples Therapy’

Apr 22, 2012 4 Comments by Coffey

Writing within the context of my own community; oftentimes a Black woman’s dating patterns–especially if that pattern is askew, like a Möbius strip– and disposition is attributed to her relationship with her father. We hear society wax poetic about a woman’s supposed Daddy Issues (clinical term: Electra complex); particularly if she’s prone to behavior that’s [...]

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When Thugs Cry, #Blacktwitter Laughs: DMX Breaks Down On VH1′s “Couple’s Retreat”

Apr 19, 2012 4 Comments by Rippa

I somehow stumbled and ran into DMX on my TV last night. Of course I ordinarily watch nothing but political stuff on grown people teevee, but my life needs balance so I wounded up on VH1 – hey, don’t judge me. I must say that what I witnessed while watching their hit show Couple’s Therapy kinda threw [...]

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The Weekend Sex Blog: Adult Games

Jan 21, 2012 2 Comments by Eddie Blue-Eyes

Games People Play The one absolute in the study of human behavior is that people do things because they get something out of it. People’s actions, however seemingly ridiculous, serve a purpose. I once had a therapist tell me I had to learn how to parent myself. It may not sound particularly earth-shattering, but I [...]

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Friends With Benefits: How Some People Overlook the Basics

Dec 09, 2011 1 Comment by Tracy Renee Jones

I had the pleasure of making the acquaintance of my downstairs neighbor yesterday after having survived a busted pipe (mine) and a collapsed ceiling (his). While the circumstances weren’t the greatest and maybe we could have done this earlier, say, late Summer or early Fall, better late then never, right? Several frustrating incidences led up to yesterday, I haven’t [...]

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Love Rain: Black Women, Reality TV, & Twitter

Dec 07, 2011 4 Comments

I fancy myself a pop-culture pundit of sorts and so am not ashamed to admit that this includes my succumbing to the Reality TV/Celebreality machine. Likewise, I also try to stay abreast of social media buzz and peep what blogs, cyber-mags, and social networking forums are on about. The two mediums seem to go hand-in-hand, particularly when [...]

Let It Flow: Reflections On My One-Time Hairstylist

Nov 30, 2011 1 Comment

I know I am not the only gay man who finds the thought of using a new, unfamiliar hair-stylist frightening. After all, the way someone “whips your buttah” can make or break your look. But this is not a style editorial. Though, that fear was certainly the sentiment I experienced when I was forced to [...]

Should We Be Ashamed About Proud Pregnant Black Teens?

Nov 08, 2011 6 Comments

Pregnancy Pact or Just Young Black Girls Comparing Bellies? Does It Matter? I was presented with the picture below and asked to take a stab at making some type of social commentary from it. A group of young black girls with their pregnant bellies distended, smart phones in hand, in a bathroom somewhere rocking khaki’s [...]

Running the Red Light: Sex On My Period? Err, Some Men Like When Aunt Flow Visits…

Nov 04, 2011 15 Comments

This topic has so many taboos that even I, Queen of the Non-Taboo, clutches her pearls while poaching this subject. After all, women and men have been conditioned by religion and our male dominated society to all but ignore the subject. The resulting ignorance and old world Victorian morals causes us all to disregard something [...]

The Friday Sex Blog [Emotional Intelligence]

Nov 04, 2011 1 Comment

Are Women more Emotionally Intelligent than Men? Emotional intelligence (EQ) has been defined as the ability to monitor one’s own and others’ feelings and emotions, to discriminate among them and to use this information to guide one’s thinking and actions. It is often assumed that women are more emotionally intelligent than men. This fallacy (myth) [...]

Amber Cole: Why Hyper-Sexual Teenagers Arent A New Phenomenon

Oct 24, 2011 1 Comment

I almost feel bad for having to add to the steaming pile of pungent articles that already surround this weeks internet sensation regarding a 14 year old girl who was filmed while giving head to a young man. Too bad, the young man wasn’t smart enough to keep their little interlude as a private matter [...]