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Wait, is Barack Obama Gay? Uhm, is He Still Black?!!

May 16, 2012 No Comments by

Last week after Pres. Obama’s made his “evolution” on gay marriage public, my initial thought was: great, now they’re going to say that Obama is gay, and all gay people are now going to vote for him because of it. You know, pretty much in the same way all black people voted for him in [...]

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The Weekend Sex Blog: Goal-Oriented Sex

Dec 18, 2011 1 Comment by

 The Futility of Goal-Oriented Sex Too often sex resembles a contest. If there ever was a metaphor we need to do away with it has to be the “war” of the sexes. In a zero-sum society, where the mentality of “winner takes all” prevails, it’s no wonder that sex resembles a race: who can have [...]

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The Weekend Sex Blog: The Way to a Woman’s Heart (Remixed)

Dec 10, 2011 1 Comment by

I yearn to have you splayed and vulnerable. Radiating pleasure like light from the sun. First, let state from the outset that I may not know what the fuck I am talking about. On the other hand I submit that some will find at least a measure of truth within these few short sentences. Simply [...]

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Friends With Benefits: How Some People Overlook the Basics

Dec 09, 2011 1 Comment by

I had the pleasure of making the acquaintance of my downstairs neighbor yesterday after having survived a busted pipe (mine) and a collapsed ceiling (his). While the circumstances weren’t the greatest and maybe we could have done this earlier, say, late Summer or early Fall, better late then never, right? Several frustrating incidences led up to yesterday, I haven’t [...]

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The Weekend Sex Blog: Christian Conservatives, Religious Fundamentalist, & Sexual Ignorance

Dec 03, 2011 1 Comment by

¡Hola mi Gente! Last week, I began what I hope will be the first of several entries showing how conservative politics and religious fundamentalism in this country are putting our children at risk. Just to give you a taste of the black hole of ignorance in this country, I offer the following (all entries are [...]

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The Saturday Sex Blog: Feminism, Pornographies, & Censorship

Nov 19, 2011 6 Comments

Feminism and Pornography Since the 1980s feminism has grown conflicted about the importance of pornography as an issue, about strategies and tactics to deal with the issue and even about the meaning of pornographies — or pornographies, for there are many different forms. My belief is that this conflict is important. I am also concerned [...]

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Running the Red Light: Sex On My Period? Err, Some Men Like When Aunt Flow Visits…

Nov 04, 2011 15 Comments

This topic has so many taboos that even I, Queen of the Non-Taboo, clutches her pearls while poaching this subject. After all, women and men have been conditioned by religion and our male dominated society to all but ignore the subject. The resulting ignorance and old world Victorian morals causes us all to disregard something [...]

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Hey, Amber Cole: For the Record … I’d Whip Dat Ass!

Oct 27, 2011 4 Comments

Funny, I often feel like I’m chained to the internet. Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Goodreads, Podomatic, and now here. I think there’s even a Myspace page out there somewhere with my name on it. Yet, I know I’m not nearly as connected as a lot of you out there. And, to be completely honest, I ignore [...]

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Amber Cole: Why Hyper-Sexual Teenagers Arent A New Phenomenon

Oct 24, 2011 1 Comment

I almost feel bad for having to add to the steaming pile of pungent articles that already surround this weeks internet sensation regarding a 14 year old girl who was filmed while giving head to a young man. Too bad, the young man wasn’t smart enough to keep their little interlude as a private matter [...]

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The Fri/Saturday Sex Blog [Sex and Revolution]

Oct 22, 2011 2 Comments

Revolution without fuckin’ is a revolution without a soul… – Me I was attending a #OccupyWallStreet general assembly last night when I noticed a young lady with a derrière that could only be described as “magnificent.” No, I’m not there to “pick up” women and no I wasn’t objectifying her. In fact, I was so [...]

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Friday Sex Blog: Secret History of the Black Pin Up

Oct 21, 2011 4 Comments

I recently wrote about seemingly lackluster (read: nonexistent) information about Black pin up models from the 1950′s… here and here. A collector, historian, and publisher by the name of Jim Linderman contacted me and divulged that he’d written and self-published a book detailing the life and experiences of Black pin up and porn models. He’d amassed an impressive [...]

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